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According to a VTsIOM survey, 35% of Russians meet online. Tinder service only three years, but it completely changed our attitude towards sex - now we can meet people at work, on the street and on the subway, but not with the “real” people around us. Now, in 2015, does the ease and speed with which we can get sex affect our daily reality and capacity for fidelity and intimacy?

Dating sites are said to have changed people's courtship rituals in the same way that the transition from hunting to farming once transformed a nomad into a family-friendly man. Moralists accuse (the service has more than 20 million users, more than 1.5 million couples are created every day) and other popular dating apps and sites of devaluing relationships: why go on dates and strive to start a family if after an hour on the Internet you Do you have a choice with whom to spend this evening, tomorrow, and so on?

But is there anything to depreciate in 2015? If you look at the situation in Moscow, where the ratio of men to women is about the same as in New York (46% versus 54%), most of the city’s active population meets on social networks and applications. The most progressive ones prefer Tinder, Badoo and, which are considered resources for people over 35, and for teenagers 17-20 years old. Marriage statistics after the serious setbacks of 1998-99 are at approximately the same level, regardless of technological innovation. But the fact remains: the average middle-aged person recent years 3-4 sits in the subway or cafe, buried in a smartphone, and does not pester passers-by on the streets with the offer: “Girl, let’s get acquainted,” as in old Soviet films. It's funny that Tinder, which has only been around for three years (an insignificant number in a historical and evolutionary sense), and other applications are often used by us for the anthropological study of others out of interest and vanity, and not for the conscious search for temporary or permanent partners. Ask your friends what they think about online dating, and the most common complaint you'll hear from women is that men are passive and uninventive, and men complain about boredom.

“To be honest, I’m too lazy to invite someone over, make coffee, all that. That’s why there haven’t been any dates yet.”

18-year-old student Sofia says: “Sometimes they write such nonsense in Hot or Not that it’s almost impossible to find a couple there. These are either the obscene fantasies of a pubescent teenager, or something like “girl, can I meet you?” Well, who will react to this?

PR manager Anna (25 years old) admits that she has been on Tinder for a year: “I have 5415 matches! And I have paid account, I'm a geek, I like to have fun with Internet activities. I correspond a lot, but there were only two dates. I would date everyone, but really active profiles few, everyone writes platitudes or is silent. Therefore, at some point I decided to use Tinder as a PR person - to increase the number of subscribers on Instagram.”

35-year-old promoter Oleg has been using the application since May: “I set the age filter to 18-22. I have a lot of matches, and I often write first. But as soon as I realize that I am receiving meaningless nonsense in response, I stop. And, to be honest, I’m too lazy to invite someone over, make coffee, all that. That’s why there haven’t been any dates yet.”

Just as in the good old days, meeting someone in a crowded club did not guarantee one hundred percent success, so apps with dating sites actually do not guarantee that the girl that matches your profile will turn out to be the one you imagined her to be. No matter how many guys look at you on the dance floor, no matter how many girls make eyes at you, not all of them will offer you a drink and not all will agree to accept your offer to go to the bar to chat. And even if the second the stage will pass successfully, you won’t necessarily have sex.

Women often cite ageism and sexism as the main reasons for unsuccessful dating. Men, on the contrary, assure that age is not a hindrance, and failures happen only from a divergence of interests.

“I use it to find adventures and interesting people, and what follows from this - sex, relationships or just a crazy story for my grandchildren - will become clear in the process.”

Olga, 38, a lawyer, says that for now she left her real age in her profile, Russian men were not at all interested in her: “I conducted an experiment and changed the age to 26. That same evening, more than twenty guys of different ages wrote to me. When I changed it back, almost everyone left immediately. I can see it happening: “Oh, what a photo! Like! How many? 38??? Delete, urgently delete the old woman!”

At the same time, women claim that ageism is characteristic mainly of the Russian part of Tinder.

DJ Denis (26 years old) has been using Tinder for two years, but not regularly: “During active use, there can be up to several dates a week. For me, it’s not just sex that’s the main incentive to use the app. For me personally, the benefit of Tinder is the opportunity to meet people I would never otherwise meet in real life. I use it to find adventures and interesting people, and what follows from this - sex, relationships or just a crazy story for my grandchildren - will become clear in the process. Among my acquaintances there are examples of happy relationships after meeting on Tinder; recently there was even one wedding. So anything is possible - the main thing is to keep your head free from prejudice. I don't use an age filter. Firstly, there are girls who like to joke about being 99 years old, and secondly, it can be interesting with older ladies.”

Tinder's "conveyor" system disappoints many Russian users. Therefore, many people stop using the application or view it as a game. 26-year-old journalist Anna says she recently downloaded Tinder because her man was always on it: “He kept bragging: “I already have 300 matches, I already have 350 matches. Well, I set it up and made 70 pairs in a week. I don’t talk to any of them, it’s just a competition with my boyfriend.”

There are also people who possibility of easy sex and constant flirting are scary. 27-year-old manager Natalya does not meet people on Tinder, since she regards it as an application only for sex: “That is, it turns out that I give a signal to people that serious relationship I don't care. But I don’t want to waste time on empty meetings, without feelings, attachments and obligations. Correspondence gives a very incomplete picture of a person. A profile is a myth; a person puts up certain photographs of himself in order to present himself with the best side. But in life, everything is far from ideal. And how can one prefer even the most intellectual correspondence to live communication?”

Angelica, a 35-year-old producer, met about a dozen times, mostly with foreigners: “I was never looking for romance there, it’s an app for sex. Finding a permanent lover using the application is not a problem. But then I decided that I was tired of non-binding meetings and gave it up, I was more interested in reality.”

“Because of electricity, I completely stopped being interested in nature. An imperfect thing,” Mayakovsky wrote in 1922.

Tinder unexpectedly revived the themes of loneliness in the metropolis, the lack of romance and the triumph of cynicism, calculation and quick sex. Most likely, when agriculture replaced hunting, and when it, in turn, was replaced by manufacturing, and the technical revolution moved the healthy male population in search of work from villages and suburbs to cities, panic also occurred in society at first. Any round of technological development requires a period of adaptation to new phenomena: they sometimes introduce new strange habits into our lives, and sometimes give rise to new diseases. The first computer games gave rise to gaming addiction. The availability of pornography has fueled cases of sexual obsession. Now, in 2015, does the ease and speed with which we can get sex affect our daily reality and capacity for fidelity and intimacy?

Internet dating has changed the life of every owner personal computer back in the 1990s, when a slow modem connection already made it possible to chat on any topic with a selected person on the other side of the globe. Instantly appeared sex chats existed even despite the fact that the network space was not yet safe: it was impossible to complain to anyone about indecent proposals, there was no pre-moderation, and video cameras on computers were science fiction. This did not prevent anyone from having sex online and meeting first online, and then in real life. Dating sites, and then social networks and instant messengers, made online dating even more convenient. And with the advent of Skype and smartphones with cameras, everything has become even easier. Indeed, the abundance of online contacts corrupts: people quickly get bored of each other, there is always the illusion of an alternative, it is difficult to settle on one partner and stop searching.

But this is just a side effect of progress. In fact, we are turning into creatures who can guess the mood of our interlocutor from a couple of words. personal messages on Facebook, declaring your love using emoji slang, understanding people faster than our parents, based on the nuances of behavior on the Internet, without ever seeing these people. Rather, it makes sense to talk not about the end of “old-fashioned” sexual relationships, but about the formation of a new person who quickly and sensitively reacts to the world around him. “Because of electricity, I completely stopped being interested in nature. An imperfect thing,” Mayakovsky wrote in 1922. As we can see, nature is still the same, electricity brings comfort to our lives, and people continue to be interested in both.

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The super-technological future is already reflected in the glass screens of our smartphones, little by little moving us towards the reality of the Black Mirror series. Let us recall that in the film people met through an Internet application, which determined 99.9% of the compatibility of partners. Is it possible today, just by downloading a dating app to your phone, to find your soulmate?

website will tell the story of our editorial guest, who spent a whole year actively trying to find the answer to this question in the very popular app for online dating - Tinder.

Hi all! My name is Yulia and I use Tinder. It sounds like the beginning of a speech from a member of an addicts club, and to some extent it is true.

So, my Tinder epic began a couple of years ago. Two of my friends have already used the application, and after hearing all sorts of funny stories from them, I also wanted to try this thing. And yes, I wanted to meet someone seriously, and not just for a couple of walks.

And it so happened that on the first try I hit the mark: the first guy I met really became my boyfriend.

But life is not always like a fairy tale - after quite a long relationship, we finally broke up. And that’s when I literally got sucked into Tinder. So last year was officially the year of dating [laughs], from which I drew conclusions and now collected my own funny stories, which I want to tell you about today.

Let me start with the fact that a person’s intentions can be determined by the place of their first meeting.

Most often they invite you to drink coffee or just take a walk. Cinema is a program for the second date, because you won’t talk much there. If you are invited somewhere to a club or to a party, this certainly does not indicate serious intentions. It rather means that a person is simply looking for any companion for an event. I myself once invited one guy to a music festival, so as not to immediately be alone with him, but to take a closer look from the outside, so draw your own conclusions if you are invited to the company.

Although one time was original: we agreed with the guy to meet in the center. He immediately made a good impression on me. But before we even had time to say hello, he took me somewhere, I asked: “Where are we going?” - “How where? To football". And we actually went to football with his company, but then we didn’t meet again.

Profile and reality are, of course, quite different things

I once had an illustrative story on this point. I met a guy who was on vacation in Spain at that time. He had several profile photos: two of them did not show his face, and in one of them he was sitting on a chair with his legs crossed and was in profile. There was no catch, since, judging by the reports, he was quite an interesting young man. At the same time, he not only corresponded with me, but even sent a bouquet and got two passes (for me and a friend) to a very cool festival, which I had never dreamed of.

When he returned, we, of course, agreed to meet. He kindly came to pick me up, although he lived on the other side of the city. And I went out into the yard and couldn’t find him. He called me on the phone: “Yes, here I am! Next to the cherry car!”

Then I see a guy who is barely tall enough to reach my shoulder... And at that moment that same feeling arises (it often happens when you meet Tinder users) when you want to move backwards, but you have to go forward because he saw you and saw that you saw him. I went forward, already mentally starting a dialogue with my friend Anya, imagining how I would tell her all this, sitting in her kitchen. In general, I thought that all was not lost, and we went to the center. But the whole evening was accompanied by a very quiet and boring monologue about how he loves history, that his dog’s name is Monomakh. The volume increased only at the moments when he uttered the phrase “my Cadillac,” which, by the way, was often. Well, while he was reading out speeches about the Polish-Lithuanian Commonwealth, I was thinking about how I wanted to shoot myself. Right in the Cadillac.

Intuition is the main assistant in Tinderland

There is such a completely inexplicable thing: as soon as you see a person, you immediately understand 100% whether you will communicate with him or not. Even if he looks like the guy of your dreams, in some cases you immediately feel that you have no future. I tried to convince myself of this, but my intuition won over and over again.

So, for example, it once happened to me with one, at first glance, ideal guy. He was handsome, traveled a lot, talked interestingly about his work and generally thought globally: he talked about environmental problems, sent documentaries, etc. And rarely does anyone on Tinder raise questions a little more than their biography. The only negative is that he had a photo with a naked torso. And a naked torso on an avatar is always one night stand, that is, a person who is looking for a one-night stand. Intuitively I understood this, but my mind said: “Look how interesting he is, he can’t be like that!”

In general, what happened. We began actively corresponding when he was in Rome, and never saw each other in person. And so he arrived, we signed up - I was sitting in the cinema at that moment, and he, as it turned out (attention!), went to remove the tattoo with the initials of his ex-wife on his chest. I laughed throughout the whole room. It was a thriller.

Although in reality the situation turned out to be quite sad: the person turned out to be depressed due to the inability to forget his ex. And he occupied his time as much as possible with work, sports, travel, documentaries, viewing her photographs and, in fact, Tinder.

All meetings are basically “one-time” meetings. Be careful: sometimes you have to cross paths with such acquaintances even after

All my meetings were basically just one time. Only once did I meet the guy three times, and then he returned to the States to study at a music academy in New Orleans. But I managed to learn a lot about US culture, music and travel - as you can see, Tinder can broaden your horizons quite a lot.

Some Tinder ethics: if the date was unsuccessful in the opinion of both parties, there are no problems, you organically forget each other immediately after the words “Well, bye, let’s write each other.” If you don't like a guy, you usually just ignore his messages. Yes, this, of course, is ugly, but in any case it is better than directly telling a person that you didn’t like him.

As for me, I only had one time when the guy in whom I saw “the one” did not ask me for a second date. However, fate still brought us together, although not quite in the way I initially asked for it.

One day I went to the cinema with my gay friend. We stood in line for popcorn. And then I notice “that same” guy coming towards me. We made eye contact, smiled, nodded to each other. He ran somewhere into the hall. Now attention: this cinema had about 20 halls. My friend and I went to see an arthouse film. Seats were taken, as they say, for introverts - in the first row on the side.

So what do you think? I walked into the hall, and “that same” guy was sitting next to my seat! And he grinned so slyly like: “She still goes on these dates, hahaha.” As a result, my friend completely ate a huge bucket of popcorn, because this popcorn simply couldn’t fit into my throat - everything in my mouth was dry due to this terribly awkward situation.

It is also difficult to understand from the messages what kind of person he is

If a guy texts you something like, “Hey, you're beautiful.” You think: “Pfft, boring, next!” And then you get messages like “Your facial features are so delicate” and “Oh, those freckles...” - and you think: “Hmm, this is already original.” But even such non-trivial messages do not guarantee that you have been caught. most interesting person. Even if you write yourself, it is not at all necessary that you choose a good profile. By the way, I never wrote first until some year, when I suddenly thought: why not? Before that, I was like [Beyoncé's pretentious gesture here], but after about 15 failed dates, I realized that I had to take matters into my own hands.

For example, I once corresponded with a rather nice guy. One day, when I was having lunch at a coffee shop, he wrote to me that he was passing nearby and could just drop by. We met, and at the moment when I was telling him that I work as a dentist, he exclaimed that he was just on his way from the dentist, and began to show photographs of his fresh filling. Not bad for dating, right? He asked them to comment. I took a closer look and said that ideally, of course, it could have been done a little more anatomically, but overall the filling was good. And he: “What do you mean, they ruined my tooth?!” And with this phrase I realized that, having decided to take matters into my own hands, I had run into a fucking hypochondriac.

As a result, he talked to me about his tooth for an hour, interrupting his laments only to go to the movies with friends. In general, he went to the cinema, and I went home. An hour later, I received a message, as I thought, with gratitude for a good meeting or something similar, and then: “How long after can I eat and drink if I got a bad filling?”

Then he wrote to me several more times about his teeth, last message it was about the fact that he didn’t want to live with all this...

It's funny, about a couple of months later I went to a movie in a not-so-popular cinema in the city. Some drunk spectator was sitting above with a girl, and you could hear him pestering her, and she kept repeating: “Well, no, not now!” There were very few people in the hall, he continued to pester me, they ran out of the hall and returned several times, and once he kicked my chair - I turned around, and there was this guy with a tooth! It was super awkward again.

I concluded that people are strange

Once I corresponded with a guy who looked like “ideal to please your grandmother”: intelligent, works as a designer, his avatar is wearing a collared shirt and holding a cat. We lived nearby, and he offered to meet at his house. Since he looked as harmless as possible, I agreed.

But how did it all turn out: in general, we are sitting at his house, with a cat, wine, and suddenly this guy, “whom my grandmother would like and that’s all,” begins to talk about how he cheated on his ex-girlfriend with the guy next door. So I’m sitting there in the mood: “Wow, date! What if this is the same one?”, and he tells me all this. And he carries on further, he admits that he even liked this feeling of deception and betrayal from the position of a “criminal”. I sit with a straight face, and inside I say “Whaaat?!”

In general, I concluded that it is impossible to understand in advance what kind of character is hidden behind the profile - whether with 1 date experience or 100 experiences. Man is a very strange creature.

To be honest, I eventually came to the conclusion that Tinder is terrible. That's why:

• Firstly, it seems to me that from a happy life on Tindernot sitting. For me it's like a big city - there are a lot of people in it, but in reality you are alone. Or you have a fear of being unaccepted, rejected, a fear of communicating with real people, a lack of friends, companies, hobbies - in general, the list goes on for a long time.
• Secondly, inThis choice is actually just an illusion, nothing more. All these pages, messages that don’t give at all real ideas about the person who is typing on the other side of the screen, all these likes that increase self-esteem are also an illusion. After all, in reality, you will not be able to stop at one option; you will be haunted by the thought that you need to go further, to a non-existent ideal. It seems to me that’s why the first guy and I started dating - it was my first date from the app, and I had not yet entered into this gambling scheme of finding “my” person.

• By the way, about likes. Insider information: one of my friends told me that for them, the guys, that is, to save their time, it is much more profitable to like everyone in a row (or “swipe” in Tinder slang), and only then, when the return swipe comes, choose those who like really like it. So if you were swiped but not messaged, you are out of this cruel scheme.
• Thirdly, Tinder itselfV Lately spoiled like any cool thing that first only the social avant-garde knows about, and then finally everyone knows about it. If before there were a lot of beautiful and smart people, but now it has gone crazy, expanded its audience to absolutely everyone and turned into an analogue (here I mean audience) of all the other crap dating apps.
• And most importantly, live dating much better - now I understand it. But the problem is that to modern man you have to step over yourself to dare to come up and say something. Yes, often girls, for example, don’t like it, but only because the image of a street stranger who wants to meet you is already taken by some boorish marginal guy - for some reason they are not at all afraid to approach absolutely anyone with banal phrases girl. At the same time, although I understand everything, I myself cannot be the first to approach the guy I like. For example, this handsome guy flew away from the airport with a hole drilled in his chest by my eyes. But theoretically everything is so simple: we could even just talk, nothing terrible would happen.

The only thing I never delete Tinder from my phone for is traveling. Nowadays it’s like couchsurfing: you can meet local resident, find out about culture from a completely different side, go to local parties, see interesting places, which you will never find in a regular guide.

Well, at home I don’t open the application anymore. After my first Tinder relationship, I really wanted to experience the same feelings, but there was nothing even remotely close to it. And it won't. Because of the feeling eternal waiting an illusory ideal around the corner. Therefore, from now on Tinder- this is a tried and closed chapter of my life.

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The Tinder app, which appeared about two years ago, completely changed the concept of online dating: now there is no shame in admitting that you are meeting via the Internet, and the procedure itself does not look like a boring questionnaire. In addition, thanks to Tinder, dating has become fast and simple (one click, and you are already corresponding with each other and making an appointment), and also lost all territorial boundaries, because with this application it turned out to be easier than ever to find new acquaintances within border (again, one click, and someone very nice, judging by the photo, is ready to show you the city!).

Behind a short time Tinder has become a mass entertainment - now more than 50 million people use it, which means that for them the dating process will never be the same...

Tinder dating program: what is it and how does it work?

Translation of Tinder from English is “wick”, “fuse”. I saw a photo of some handsome guy and got excited! But seriously, Tinder works great as entertainment before bed on Friday or Saturday, when for some reason you have “put aside” all the parties and are comfortably ensconced on the couch in front of the TV (by the way, according to our personal statistics, it is at this time users are especially active in correspondence) - something like computer game, only with real heroes.

So, how does the Tinder dating app work and how to use it? This mobile app reminds tape social network, only you need to view it not from bottom to top, but from left to right, and it features human faces, not cats and dogs, legs against the background of the beach and photographs of food. All you need to do is rate other Tinder users. You have only two choices: click either on the green heart and like the user, or on the red cross and reject it to instantly move on to the next one. You can like and dislike even easier: swipe left - dislike, swipe right - like. There is a third option, swipe up - this is a super like.

If your likes coincide and you both “like” each other, then you are given the opportunity to chat. If you were “liked” before you were, the chat will pop up immediately after you click on the green heart. If this does not happen, this does not mean that the chosen person did not like you: there is a chance that he is not very active in the search, will go online later and “like” you. Tinder does not provide any data on how many people wanted to meet you and how many rejected you, so you don’t have to worry about your self-esteem: everything is based only on the mutual desire to communicate.

Tinder reviews

Reviews about the Tinder application on the Internet are very different: many love more simple versions dating sites, but still in most reviews users describe exactly advantages of Tinder. For example, that same link to Facebook almost completely cuts off bots, and you see your common interests, even mutual acquaintances (yes, how small the world is!). Many also note an interesting modern interface, while being easy to operate.

Marina, journalist : « There's always the fear that the guy you're hitting on on Tinder is looking for a one-night stand or something. My goal is the purest one: to find my love. Despite my profession, I’m not particularly good at meeting people specifically to build relationships; it always comes down to work. With Tinder, everything is simpler: here I’m not a journalist, but just a girl who loves photography, traveling and cooking paella. So far, out of 10 total likes, only 2 dates have turned out, but I was lucky: the guys I came across were interesting and smart, while my friends, on the contrary, were nothing but philanderers».

Ivan, programmer : « I wouldn't say that I'm delighted with the app, but it's definitely better than other dating sites. On Tinder it’s incredibly easy to find a girl for one night or build a relationship without obligations: I don’t know how many one-day affairs I’ve had, I’ve lost count, but a simple affair with one girl lasted two whole months. Now I sometimes look at the app again when I'm bored. I'm not delighted with it, rather because it would improve the functionality».

Miroslava, student : « I have a lot of friends at university, but Tinder is a platform where I can choose friends based on my interests. I usually look through the profile in detail, if I find common groups or acquaintances, I definitely like it! I rarely like, but accurately: I went on 3 dates, and I just chat with some of them – and that’s great! I don’t like anything on any social network so much: simple and interesting».

How to log into Tinder without Facebook?

If you still don’t know how to log into Tinder without Facebook, we dare to assure you: neither do we! After all, Tinder and Facebook, in fact, go together. And for good reason: it is important that the application contains as many real people as possible, and not fake personalities, as is the case on other dating sites. Many people all over the world have their own account (and quite a real one) on Facebook. to the globe, so linking to this popular social network is logical. In countries where access to Facebook is closed, Tinder developers promise to set up logging into the application using SMS.

Also Linking to Facebook brings people together by interests: At the bottom of each profile, shared groups that you both have liked are shown. So by whether he likes Banksy, Dior Homme or the Community of Young Scientists, you can already determine what kind of person he is.

You don’t have to worry about syncing with Facebook: Tinder will not share your acquaintances or post any information on your wall.

How to see who super-liked on Tinder?

As mentioned above, a super like is a “swipe up.” If you have free version application, you only have 1 super like per day, if the subscription is paid - as many as 5 superlikes. How do you know if someone has sent you a Super Like? While you are scrolling through candidates and swiping left and right, be careful: the profile of the person who sent you a super like will be highlighted blue And there will be a blue star in the photo below.

Are you serious?

Is it possible to find love through Tinder or does this application rather work to while away an evening (or night - underline as appropriate) with someone? “It’s like real life, only better,” is the slogan used by its creators to accompany Tinder. Practice shows that out of about ten coincidences that lead to correspondence, one can definitely turn into a timid proposal to go somewhere together, and thanks to such simple manipulations on your phone you organized a real date for yourself. There are also those who count on quick sex and instantly invite you somewhere after the first three or four questions in the chat.

Adherents of the “vintage” approach to relationships, of course, will say: what about that magical moment when our eyes met, he smiled at me and I understood at first sight that this was fate? Indeed, there is not much romance and miracle in clicking left and clicking right, but not all long and strong relationships begin according to the script of a Hollywood melodrama. A huge advantage of programs like Tinder is that they force you to stop dreaming and finally move on to action - to dating.

How is Tinder changing the way we look at online dating?

– Dating from compulsory program turned into entertainment. Having become something like communication on a social network - an ordinary procedure and at the same time very fun. You can click either on the red cross or on the green heart in Tinder endlessly, and you can even do this together with your girlfriends, exchanging photos of your “finds.” Finally, from photoshopped photographs and abstruse quotes in the profile, we have moved on to banal human communication, which is not yet burdened by the need to deal with “bots” and annoying maniacs.

– You don’t have to be afraid to meet someone first. You think to yourself, “Damn, he’s so handsome, I should point him out,” and then you get a match. Is not it the best remedy boost yourself and your self-esteem? For girls who have been bored alone for months, Tinder will definitely be somewhat reminiscent of a tasting in a candy store: if your “hello!” if one doesn’t answer, the other will definitely answer, you already matched and liked each other.

– « Tinder breaks down gender stereotypes in dating. It is generally accepted that, unlike superficially thinking men who only hunt for sex, women need to more information about his personality and interests. Tinder proves the opposite: according to statistics, women press the red cross 70% of the time - slightly more often than men do on this application. Another advantage of this application is especially acutely felt against the backdrop of the machismo traditions of our society: if in real life women are forced to endure annoying “tackles” from subjects unpleasant to them, here this is excluded, because a person has access to your life only if you give him " green light».

– We are no longer ashamed to “meet by clothes”. The principle of functioning of a profile on Tinder: maximum photos and minimum words. And in that a photo carries more information than a catchphrase, the creator of the new app, Sean Rad, is absolutely right: “If I post a photo of myself at a ski resort, it’s not at all the same as if I posted a photo of myself in Vegas.” .

– An ordinary weekend in Europe can be turned into a discovery tour. Many people download this application right at the airport, and even if they are not looking for adventures in the spirit of the movie “Before Dawn,” they at least enjoy the experience foreign languages, discover unusual sights and explore local restaurants in pleasant, unobtrusive company.

Over the past few weeks, several services have appeared on the market that allow you to reveal the infidelity of a loved one.

Do you know those people who really want to rummage through someone else's phone? Don’t feed them bread, just let them know what their loved one is and to whom he/she wrote/wrote in the middle of the night. Such people are itching. Perhaps you are such a person yourself.

But what if you accidentally saw that your partner has Tinder installed? Everyone knows that there is no more simple way find yourself sex without commitment, right? And who does he like there? And who is she texting with? And how often? A thousand and one thoughts can flash through a brain inflamed with jealousy, and each new one is worse than the previous one. There are two ways to deal with them: calm down and move on with your life, or check. If you prefer the first one, you can leave the article and look, for example,. And if you want to check it out, read on.

Startups, as we know, do not appear out of the blue and usually provide a solution for existing problem. Tinder turned out to be the answer to an ever-faster life, when there is no time to meet a person in the library, and it also became the answer to old question: Do we need to know something about a person in order for us to like him? And Tinder answered: no, no need, swipe right if you want me, swipe left if I suck, superlike if you haven’t seen anyone cooler for a long time.

Swipebuster is a response to the fact that Tinder is used not only by single people, but also by those in relationships. For just $5, the web service allows you to track everyone who uses Tinder, all you need to know is home address, name and age. The service is not completely legal and operates in a gray area, but it works - and it works damn well. It allows you to not only find out that an unfaithful lover was on Tinder, but also when exactly he logged in last time. I feel like someone’s heart is skipping a beat, it sounds threatening, right?

But this is not the end, if you want to know everything about your partner, you can install completely spyware (and completely illegal) programs on his phone, which will allow you to remotely monitor everything that happens on the screen. More ethical are the Couple Tracker and mCouple programs, which give both partners access to calls, GPS tracker, messages and Facebook activity.

You can purchase , and it will notify you of suspicious activity on it, strongly reminiscent of sex.

In 2016, you can cover yourself head to toe with devices and services that can prove with almost 100% certainty that your partner is cheating on you, but I would think about two things. Is it really that important to you who your partner flirts with on Tinder as long as it doesn't cross the boundaries of flirting? It is known that more than 80% of users never date anyone, but use the service in order to get the satisfaction of being liked by the person they like, this is called Tindergasm. Not much worse than porn, right?

And secondly, you need to think - is it even worth being with that person whom you do not trust 100%, and should you be that person who does not trust your loved one?

Many of us know about the Tinder app, which allows us to meet new people.

An e-book dedicated to this application was recently published. The author of the book is known as Max. Max claims that his book is based on "the generally accepted psychology of seduction" (sounds nice, whatever that means).

At first glance, it seems that the book was created specifically for pick-up artists who want to use one of the dating apps to increase their list of conquered female hearts.

But the author of the book says that this is not so. His the main objective- save people’s time and save users from the embarrassment that often accompanies new acquaintances. Tinder, according to Max, is not only an application for fleeting and meaningless dates, but also great way meet women you would never dare approach in real life.

Here are the top tips for men who like to hook up on Tinder.

1. Tinder is more than just a casual dating app.

Max says many people describe Tinder as an app for one-night stands. But this is wrong: only horny young ladies do not sit on Tinder. Essentially, the girls you meet on Tinder are not much different from the girls you would meet in a bar, for example.

“Understand that getting the attention of a girl you really like on Tinder is much more difficult than if you met her, for example, alone in a bar.

Imagine: you need to convince a girl who has never seen you in person to spend time with you face to face. And yes, do not forget that a lady should prefer meeting with you over meeting a man she knows or with millions of other guys who are also Tinder users.

But there is also good news: according to the law large numbers, you will achieve much more on Tinder more success than in a bar. Besides there is various tips, with which you can increase your chances of success."

2. Be the perfect lover

“I would like to mention about one guy with whom I had the opportunity to communicate on the Internet. His name is Ryan Gosling. He was brought up in such a way that he could not even think about offending women in any way, and always tried in every possible way to look after and take care of them.

Men like Ryan, who have so much respect for women, can be overly shy by nature and will never dare to approach and meet a lady on the street or start flirting with her in a bar.

This is the guy that millions of women dream about, but in real life they rarely pay attention to him. If you use the “ideal lover” approach, you can pleasantly surprise a woman.

This approach is successful because it applies to most girls. Don't forget that after network communication you have to meet a girl in real life, and then Ryan Gosling has to turn into James Bond.”

3. Set the optimal search range

Don’t rush to immediately look for a girlfriend thousands of kilometers away from you. Start small and increase your search range gradually. This way you will prioritize and increase your chances of success.

4. Take a high-quality photo for your profile

Here's what Max advises about your profile photo.

Do not post photos:

• If it only shows your face.
• In the frame you are standing somewhere far away.
• You are out of focus.
• You put on too serious a face.
• You are captured with another person.
• The photo looks blurry. Even girls have already stopped using this boring effect.
• Darkened photos, as well as photos in which you are wearing glasses. Black and white photographs are also not acceptable.

Instead of this:

• Take a photo of just you. The absence of strangers in the photograph ensures that the viewer will not be distracted by anyone.
• Avoid exclusively portrait photos.
• In the photo you should be looking at the camera.
• Smile naturally, not fakely.
• It is not forbidden to use various photo editors to correct minor appearance flaws such as acne or adjust the brightness of a photo. However, don't overdo it: you should, of course, be the best version yourself, but try to make sure that stranger, after looking at your photo on Tinder, he was later able to recognize you on the street.
• Put some message into the photo. Show that you're stylish, show that you travel a lot, or show off your great fitness.

5. Scroll instead of clicking on the cross or heart

Max advises not to click on the cross or heart, but to scroll through it - this takes less time. In his book, Max examines the advantages and disadvantages of these methods. But despite the fact that, according to Max, using swipe is preferable, this method also has disadvantages. We spend less time studying the user's photo, and we can like or dislike purely intuitively, without thinking at all, and miss the person who deserves our attention.

6. Don't go on Tinder too often

“Of course, you can view photos and like them at any time of the day or night. However, it is best to do this in free time, for example, when you are waiting for something or someone. Or when you just can't find more useful way pastime.

If you combine gatherings on Tinder with some important matters, then you will not pay due attention to your activity in the application.

Even though Tinder won't take up much of your time, don't let it interfere with your relationship. Everyday life. Don't stay there for hours, but go once every one or two days.

Such time intervals are also good because it will allow the application to select the most suitable ones for you. active users. In addition, some people may view your time last approach on Tinder. And when you notice that a person logs into the application every five minutes, thoughts immediately appear like “Does he have nothing else to do?”, “Will he constantly pester me with his eternal online" etc.

Give the girls time, don’t bombard them with likes, but wait until they start giving you hearts. This way you will definitely be on top.”

7. Don't be too picky

Let's be honest: Tinder doesn't only feature girls who look like models. In addition, men tend to embellish their appearance, forgetting that they themselves are also far from ideal.

So don’t be too picky, and if appearance is so important to you, then get yourself a rating scale from 1 to 10 and mark only those ladies who you can give the highest (or almost the highest) rating on your scale.

8. Best time to chat on Tinder

Tinder, according to Max, has prime time:

• Monday - Thursday from 19:00 to 23:00;
• Friday - Saturday from 15:00 to 21:00;
• Sunday from 16:00 to 23:00.

For example, Sunday is ideal for relaxation and some activity that doesn't bother you, like Tinder. This is the perfect day to set up dates for the coming week, because it is on Sunday that girls do not so often shy away from communicating with you using the favorite phrase “Sorry, I’m busy right now.”

Hundreds of girls from different cities followed a friend's advice and installed Tinder last weekend. On Sunday you have a lot of free time to make acquaintances with “newly minted” young ladies.

9. Find out who the girl you just met is

The information contained in a Tinder profile is clearly not enough to get a complete picture of a person and understand whether he is worth your attention. But there is a simple solution: find the girl you met through the app on Facebook. This way you can learn about her interests, understand what kind of people she prefers to communicate with, and also see more of her photos.

10. Don't rush things

Max advises: “Take your time, don’t rush the horses. You should not insist on a meeting immediately after a five-minute correspondence. Yes, it is quite possible that the girl with whom you have a mutual sympathy (even if it is purely virtual) sees you as a potential partner. But if you immediately start making unambiguous hints and insisting too zealously on a meeting, you will cause hostility and alienation from most girls.”

11. Apparently, racy images are not bad.

In his book, Max says that he always thought that sending racy images was the lot of Internet perverts and other sexually anxious people. But then he mentions a man who was his traveling companion on one of his trips. This person regularly sent intimate photos girls on Tinder - apparently with great success.